Staying friends with your ex-partner is not what most people would recommend, for obvious reasons.
For one, it can be extremely difficult to move on for either of you when you are in touch and hang out as friends. Also, it can (and will) hurt like hell when one of you starts dating someone new.
However, if you don’t want to lose the person and keep them in your life, offering to stay friends is the only option you are left with while breaking up. Not to worry, it can work.
If you both have mutually decided to stay connected as friends after you split as a couple, you can continue to be cordial without hurting each other or yourself.
There are some unwritten rules of being friends with your ex in a healthy way that you can follow and make sure this new arrangement doesn’t end up in a disaster.
Here are 5 rules of being friends with your ex:
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1. Flirting Is Off Limits
Not only it could be awkward at times but it could rekindle interest or feelings, which is dangerous if it happens to only one party.
When you agreed on being friends, you signed up for a platonic relationship that excludes casual flirting (even if it includes inside jokes) or romantic gestures.
2. Respect Their Space
They are not your partner anymore so you need to treat them like any other friend you have.
You absolutely cannot expect them to spend their time texting you, calling you or giving you every tiny detail of their life.
3. Set Emotional Boundaries
When you were together, they might be the first person you ran to when you felt down or had a fight at home or were sick. However, things have changed and your equation too after your breakup.
Don’t depend on them emotionally and don’t seek love, attention and affection from an ex-turned-friend. Set emotional boundaries. No drunk texts, either.
4. Don’t Bring Up The Past
While hanging out or conversing with your ex, don’t bring up past memories or romantic evenings you spent together or all the firsts you had.
You need to give yourself and them a chance to move on and look beyond what you had as a couple.
Bringing up what led your relationship to the breakup is also not okay at all.
5. Put A New Label To Your Relationship
Do you still call them your ex while mentioning them in a conversation with your friends or family? Stop clinging to that label and instead address them as your friend.
Calling them your ex will only make it harder to move on from the broken relationship and solely look at them as a friend.